A year later

Car Seat Safety

I cannot help but share this beautiful angels story in hopes that it may educate another family on the importance of proper car seat restraints. Anniston’s mother was strong enough to share – and I am passing their story on to you as well. *Trigger Warning* Graphic content

Forever Anniston Jade

On January 12, 2014, my life was forever changed by one phone call. “Baby, I had a wreck” was all I heard on the other end of the phone talking to our daughters dad. In a split second, our lives changed by a brief moment that caused the car to go into the other lane of oncoming traffic.

Anniston Jade was born on May 8, 2010. She was a beautiful little girl. We watched her grow everyday & like all parents, we had hopes and dreams for her. When she was born, Anniston had jet black hair and it was a straight as could be. As she grew older, it turned blonde and curly. She was the prettiest thing we had ever seen.
I will never forget her excitement as she opened up her presents on her 3rd birthday. A pack of panties made her the happiest little girl and…

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I get asked often “Why would you want to be a stay at home mom?” or “How can you afford to be a stay at home mom?”

I have taken my time and thought how best to give an answer that didn’t persist societies idea of a ‘lazy mom’ who views herself ‘too good to work’. The following is my attempt to explain to those who haven’t lived through what I dub “the struggle”.

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Let me begin by giving a deeper introduction as to who I am.

I am a 27 year old career hopping –  college dropout – mother of two. Yes, you read that right, that’s me. I dropped out of my final year (just two semesters shy of my Bachelors degree) because of economic hardships that I will delve into later.

WHY on earth would I put that out there for everyone to read? Because I want to share the reality of poverty, parenthood, and personal sacrifice with the world.

What the hell happened?

I am a licensed cosmetologist who worked long hours in a salon where I made decent money but the work schedule more often than not was not accommodated by the traditional daycare hours. I had to scramble daily to find someone trustworthy to look after my child which often required additional childcare costs and tremendous effort from my parents to fill the gaps that were left.

After three years of shuffling my son and the schedules of my support network …. I decided that something had to give. I HAD to do something else to put me on the path of a convenient 9-5. Like most young adults today, I thought that college was the only logical stepping stone to that desired end state my family needed.

I started my college ‘career’ through an Adult Degree program; A program that had been marketed to reach a degree hybrid style (in person and online) or have the most convenient option – obtain a degree completely online. (side note: marketing is misleading – even from state universities – they will market programs too good to be true to get you enrolled and indebted to the federal government. Woo hoo, it is going to take me a while to pay them that $30k+ back. Sorry, not sorry.)

When I started school, I was again living with my parents because they were gracious enough to clear out a space in their basement for me to sleep – of course they cleared a room for the precious grandbaby but I was a-ok with living in the dungeon because it seemed fitting. An added bonus to living back at home was that I had access to round the clock childcare – you have to love sympathetic grandparents.

I was able to work part-time and go to school full-time without having to worry a tremendous amount about who was going to pick up my child from school when work or class was running late. I was able to commute an hour and a half to campus and hit the books – telling myself that I would be able to make up the nights I didn’t tuck in my first born because I would have the freedom to be home with him more in the future. Well, that was the plan.

Fast forward three years…

Today I am married with two wonderful children (three if you count my husband) with a limited support system locally. We live close enough to visit, but life has changed dramatically for us all.

My mother – who often filled the gaps in childcare without even contemplating how inconvenient it was for herself – is now disabled with a traumatic brain injury. My father is still working more hours than a retired fifty year old veteran should ever have to, to provide for himself and my mother. So off to daycare BOTH children went as I commuted to campus three days a week (long days where the commute began at 6 am and didn’t put me in my bed until sometimes past 10 pm) and I worked a part-time minimum wage job while my husband was off grinding to provide for a family of four.

Two parents working – they should have no problems making ends meet, right? Wrong! We found ourselves neck-deep in daycare costs and often finding ourselves coming up short.

Finally one day, my husband and I sat down to figure out what the hell we were doing wrong. We wanted to know how it was possible for us both to personally sacrifice so much of  our time away from our children and still barely get by living pay check to paycheck. We had already cut out all the non-essentials – no cable TV, we cook most of our meals at home, and we have NO social life. We don’t have car payments on our ten year old vehicle and we buy most things second-hand – so why were we still bleeding money?

That is when it dawned on us that I was essentially paying to work – not just working for free. We knew then it was time for a dramatic shift.

I will break down what daycare and commuting costs looked like for our family.

It cost $210 a week for both children to have childcare for the hours my husband and I are at work or school. ($180 for my daughter full-time, $30 a week for before and after school care for my son). Monthly that amounts to $840 JUST in childcare costs, that is well over $10,000 yearly in child care costs.  Many families are finding the rising cost of childcare to be hard to afford, as a result we see the rates of stay at home parents rising nationally.


Commuting to school was about 74 miles each way, 148 miles daily. Commuting to my part-time job was only about 34 miles a day. That was 515 miles put on my 2000 Buick Century a week – that is 2038 miles a month of commuting. The beast (my Buick) only gets approximately 21 mpg. I estimate fuel costs to be around $340 a month (fuel costs at the time to were pushing $3.50 a gallon), around $4,100 yearly.

Put those costs together, $14,100 (+/- for holiday breaks and summer care) and that is well over what I personally brought in working part-time – hell, even FULL TIME at minimum wage.

I left school, took my children out of daycare and quit my job outside the home. I now work for myself with a wonderful company that highlights the non-toxic lifestyle we try to live and I get to actually get to keep the income generated instead of handing those monies over to a stand in caretaker. (If you want to know what I do from home, click here.)

We are not the only family that has had to make the difficult choice to have a sole earner while the other parent stays home with the little ones. It was a choice we made out of necessity. A choice that I would make over and over again.

So, take away from this what you will, but the answer to the above question really is quite simple: economics. Our family simply cannot AFFORD for me to work outside of our home. Sounds pretty silly doesn’t it… but for many families like my own it is a hard truth.

Next time you hear about a mom or dad staying home to raise their children – don’t automatically get judgmental and think they are taking the lazy way out. Instead, think about the financial burdens they are escaping and the rational decision they made for their families current needs.

Are you a stay at home mom or dad? I would love to hear your views and reasons for choosing to stay home – are they the same or do they differ? Please comment and share!

Momma Mia!

I am not a perfect mom, I have failed miserably at many things I have attempted to do with my life. I often wonder if I have also fallen short as a parent.

Pregnant at 19 has a way of putting the brakes on lavish dreams of success. Parenthood is a journey –  but learning to set aside your own wants and needs for the little people in your life does not always come without the occasional ‘what-ifs’.

Connor and I snuggled close on the couch this evening, something extra special for us to have just “us time” these days with his sister demanding so much of my time. Being a single mom for so many years – it was Connor and I against the world for so long.

I relish the tender quiet moments together that I get to reflect on how far we have come. As I snuggled my first born tonight – him being the mature kid he is, so emotionally connected to me – must have felt the state of self doubt I was in.

Connor looked up at me and said “I am so happy you are my mom.”  Being loved – unconditionally by a child who is wise beyond his years IS my success.

Dreams are just that, dreams. Reality is so much better in moments like these.Those words have such power. Everything else in the world disappears and just the present moment matters.

Thank you for the reminder that success comes in many forms kiddo.

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Momma Mia!

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Emerge Winning

Before I dive into the topic at hand, I would like to check in on my progress thus far in my “30-Day Slimdown.” If you read the last blog post,you may recall that this plan is a simple one featuring moderate exercise, clean eating (about 80% of the time, to be honest), and some helpful supplements from Modere’s Slimdown Collection. I shed over 6 lbs. in a week! I made sure to balance my occasional splurge with 1) clean eating the rest of the day, and 2) Carb Blocker supplement when eating a higher carb meal. In addition, I made an extra effort to get to bed at a reasonable time and to get up at roughly the same time each day. My favorite part is that I didn’t feel deprived or restricted… just selective. I will definitely check in again in another week!

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Share the Love: Lilly

Modere Mom Extrodinaire

“Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to

make it happen.”

― Ralph Waldo Emerson

This post has taken me awhile to ponder how to put the emotional journey I experienced with a complete stranger into words. It has been weeks and I am just now able to verbalize the warmth I felt throughout my body – and the way the universe keeps bringing me the opportunity to change peoples lives and warm their hearts as well.

Many of you readers know that I am an advocate for AP parenting styles, and have really immersed myself within the babywearing community locally – and virtually. Through this wonderful and widespread network of amazing moms I know – I ‘met’ Katherine.

I woke up and as most mornings, browsed one the fast paced babywearing group I am a part of – and the first post I saw was Katherine’s. While reading her story for an ISO wrap Kokadi’s Lilly im Wunderland (that I happened to be snuggled under at that very moment) my body was overcome with goosies.

With Katherine’s permission I will give some background context. Katherine lost her brother a few years ago to suicide. Katherine’s bond with her brother was such that he visited her in a dream to announce her pregnancy to her – she had no previous inclination of having a baby on board until she took a test immediately after her brothers announcement in her dream. She named her beautiful angel Lillian who was born on her late uncles birthday.

So why did I have the goosies?

Because once I read her story further and further – I knew my body was telling me to pay it forward. This young mom had found the world of babywearing and found her legacy wrap on wrap database and knew within moments that this was needed in her life because not only was the wrap Katherine’s favorite color & the same name as her daughter- Lilly & Lillian – wait for it…

The wrap was also released on Lillian and her uncles shared….


Woah, I know… sounds like FATE.

I immediately contacted Katherine to offer to sell her MY Lilly, only to find out she could not afford the MV. She was hustling to find any way for her to fund her daughters legacy wrap – but to no avail, the funds just couldn’t be found. If you aren’t familiar with the price of a cushy woven wrap – let me just tell you they cost a pretty penny and value increases with use! $$$

Once she announced this to our AMAZING babywearing community, I had several moms privately contact me to offer to donate on Katherine’s behalf. We all felt it. We all knew this was meant to be – so few wonderful mom’s chipped in and covered all my shipping costs. I couldn’t contain myself – Lilly had a forever family that needed her.

So with little hesitation, my beautiful children and I took our beloved Lilly on a few more rides – willed sleepy dust into her and the very next day I sent Lilly on her journey to Katherine.


My baby girl and Lilly RUB carry Connor took one last ride... sending Lilly extra floppy!!

Why blog about this?

Because the good that people can do is sometimes enough to uplift someones life. I think that Lilly (the wrap) will have a much deeper emotional effect on her new family. It is as if the Universe wanted Lillian and her mother to be wrapped close in the love of their lost but never forgotten loved one. Powerful.

It would be plain selfish for me not to share the good in the world and spread hope. Have faith in humanity folks, there are some of us good ones out here!

Keep Calm and Carry On

Do Good, Feel Good. Part 1

Modere Mom Extrodinaire

While I have been busy doing good throughout the last several years, it was not until a recent encounter that reminded me that maybe – just maybe – I can Share The Love (of sharing and caring) with others.

Within the last two weeks of my life, I have personally given more of myself to complete strangers than I have ever – and it felt AMAZING.

For years I have been on charitable committee’s setting up events and raising funds – never feeling a pinch myself except for time. Although, time is an irreplacable gift to give, I still felt that I ought to #digdeep and start giving parts of ME.

What could a little gal from the Midwest raising a family possibly have to share that others need?….

I welcome you to my journey to #sharethelove , and thank you for taking it with me. I challenge you to also #dogoodfeelgood #sharethelove and #payitforward.

I will leave you with a little teaser, the journey all started because of the name Lilly and how the universe pulled us together.

My search for synergy…

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Over the last few years, I have dabbled in several lines of work; cosmetology, customer service, student, business intern, accounts manager. To know avail- there was no firm internal pull to say it was ‘home’. Not saying there wasn’t interest and a desire to give my all, but, there was no waking up at 2 a.m. just thinking of how valued I am by such an amazing community. Values enough to invite me out to Atlanta for some amazing training and community involvement.

Speaking of community involvement, those of you who know me well can attest that I am all about philanthropy. I have volunteered much of my time to a local charity in Waupaca, Wi to raise awareness for Lou Gehrig’s Disease – and have found much joy in this feel good part of my life. Now, I have embarked on another charitable endeavor that YOU can HELP with!

How? Well it is super easy. Up until the time I leave for Atlanta (roughly a week) I am accepting donations of gently used and/or new children’s books for an extraordinary charitable contribution our entire company is taking part in. We are going to make hygiene bags for women and children living in local Atlanta shelters. We have been challenged to put a children’s book in every bag!!! With your help, I can help these children escape the shelter because we all know with reading, we can find ourselves within the book and forget about the present problems.

We all know the journey for synergy so well. I am so grateful I have found it for my families lifestyle and my career! Never heard of Modere? Check out our amazing company here: http://bit.ly/1xC7g7D

Blogger? Me??? Sure, why not!

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Here I am anxious to share my excitement about where my family is in life and where I feel we are heading (on the up and up!). Finally I have found myself working for a company whose values and products are synergistic with my own; #Modere. Being a “scrunchy mom” myself, I fell in love with every aspect of this organic brand! An opportunity was recently presented to me that has led to a very- soon-to-be-here trip to Atlanta for training to launch this amazing brand in my Midwest market. So here I am, starting a blog because I would like to some day have the ability to relive this amazing journey my family is embarking on and because I have a house full of sleepers and I just HAVE to tell someone about this excitement!

Wanna know more about me and why I feel I am so special that I began a blog to share my journey? Strap your boots on…